In case you needed another reason why you shouldn’t share everything you see on Facebook, a Kansas City man was humiliated on Facebook after doing nothing more than walking.
A black man was waiting to pick up his child in school in order to walk the child home. While waiting, he decided to walk around the neighborhood when a local woman pulled up in her car, took a picture of the man and said “I got you.” She then allegedly posted the man’s picture on a neighborhood Facebook page with the warning that her neighbors should watch out for this man. The picture made it back to the man’s friends and family which he says has left him humiliated.
This man says he just wants to put it behind him, but if I was him I would be pursuing legal actions to make an example out of this woman for being such a racist, and for spreading such bullshit on the already polluted pages of Facebook.
In the past, I’ve posted about how such posts have ruined the lives of people, and even caused one man to take his own life. If you know someone who shares unfounded trash like this on Facebook, consider sharing this or any of the other stories with them. It may be blunt, but they probably deserve it.
Yeah, I know. I’m not exactly prompt with this story. For all I know everyone has moved on to something new to be outraged about. Well, since I still have this idea rolling around in my head I’m still going to post about it.
I only have a passing knowledge of Milo Yiannopoulos. From what I understand, he’s a right-wing shit stirrer who’s been banned from Twitter for what some have viewed as hate speech. I also knew that he worked for right-wing ‘news’ site Breitbart. However, right now I could not care less about Mr. Yiannopoulos’ politics, but more about what he said that has brought about his possible downfall.
On a podcast that Mr. Yiannopoulos appeared on during early 2016, he reportedly said some things about sex and consent that were very controversial. Here’s some of what he said courtesy of New York Magazine…
In the homosexual world particularly, some of those relationships between younger boys and older men the sort of coming of age relationships, relationships in which those older men have helped those young boys to discover who they are and give them security and safety and provide them with love and a reliable — and sort of a rock where they can’t speak to their parents.
The law is probably about right, that’s probably roughly the right age, I think it’s probably about okay, but there are certainly people who are capable of giving consent at a younger age. I certainly consider myself to be one of them.
You’re misunderstanding what pedophilia means. Pedophilia is not a sexual attraction to somebody 13 years old, who is sexually mature. Pedophilia is attraction to children who have not reached puberty. Pedophilia is attraction to people who don’t have functioning sex organs yet who have not gone through puberty.
Now I am not saying that Mr. Yiannopoulos is a pedophile, but to play armchair psychologist, I don’t think it’s necessarily his fault that he believes what he said. While I’m not trying to make excuses for what he said, Mr. Yiannopoulos claims that he was a victim of sexual abuse. By saying what he did, he could be trying to rationalize what happened to him. It’s possible he could be harboring feelings of guilt that he was abused and this could be his way of dealing with it. However, Mr. Yiannopoulos was grossly irresponsible by saying this in public.
This line of thinking is very much on par with a lot of sexual predators. I have received numerous comments on this very website from people, mostly men, trying to excuse preying on underage children by using the ‘this technically isn’t pedophilia’ argument. Here is an e-mail I once received to a similar effect…
Hey Trench – I enjoy reading your blog but thought I’d point out an error in your terminology.
You commonly refer to men attracted to teenage girls as ‘pedophiles’ when this is not the case. Attraction to teenage girls is considered ‘hebophilia’ which actually is not considered a mental disorder, as it is biologically normal to be attracted to post-pubescent individuals.
We as a society have chosen to infantilize teenagers when it comes to sex but treat them as adults when they commit crimes. It seems a little out of whack to me. Thoughts?
The e-mail writer is incorrectly referring to hebephilia, which is defined as the sexual attraction to early pubescent children ages 11 to 14. The e-mail writer and Mr. Yiannopoulos are far from the first people to ever make these kind of claims. However in the modern lexicon you can’t say “It’s not pedophilia, but…” and not expect there to be push-back from the public.
Since Mr.Yiannopoulos’ comments were brought to light, he was cancelled as a speaker at a large conservative event, lost a book deal, and was fired or resigned from Breitbart, depending on who you talk to. Personally I believe Mr. Yiannopoulos deserved the public backlash that he has received. As I’ve said many times before, while you may be entitled to freedom of speech you’re not entitled to be protected from the repercussions of said speech.
The worst part in this is that Mr. Yiannopoulos’ followers are legion. They are dedicated almost to the point of fanaticism. By making these statements he seems to legitimize this behavior to his internet lackeys. My fear is that he has almost ordained a new generation of men, since his followers are mostly male, that follow the ‘old enough to bleed, old enough to breed’ axiom. Not only that but there’s a great chance that he’s attracted more followers that already follow the ‘it’s not technically pedophilia’ mantra. That’s obviously one of the last things this country needs.
(Special thanks to Lady Gray for her editorial assistance.)
I haven’t posted much about the Bethel High School shooting that happened in Anchorage, Alaska, back in 1997. Back then a 16-year-old Evan Ramsey took a shotgun to the school and opened fire killing Principal Ron Edwards and student Josh Palacios. Ramsey was tried as an adult and was sentenced to close to 200 years in prison. Back in 2008, Ramsey gave an interview to Nightline where he blamed the shooting on everyone but himself. He blamed everything from video games, to bullies, to the kid who taught him how to shoot a gun. He even tried to claim that he didn’t think death was permanent at the time of the shooting.
Now, with the 20th anniversary of the shooting having just passed yesterday, the Alaskan media have spoken to Ramsey and he seems to have changed his tune.
Ramsey said he is not making excuses or blaming video games, rock music or anything else, unlike how it sounded years ago in an interview with CNN’s Anderson Cooper. He is not looking for sympathy. He said he is speaking up to say how wrong he was and to help others, like school counselors, understand the rage that took hold.
“I can’t say that I am sorry enough,” Ramsey said. A correctional officer announced time was up. He said he hopes everyone he hurt will find closure, peace.
“There’s a part of me that will always be sad,” Evan Ramsey said. “Sad for what I did. But the small amount of sorrow that I have, others feel more.”
Evan Ramsey says he’s sorry for his crime and wishes he had known then that his high school years would pass quickly and his frustrations over bullying would be over.
So for once it seems that we have a school shooter that’s finally owning up to the responsibility of his actions. However, that hasn’t stopped the press for making the excuses for him. For example, the ADN headline reads “Evan Ramsey’s tattered life filled him with rage. Then he brought a shotgun to school.” Both articles I link to spend more time going over Ramsey’s childhood then they do about the victims of the shooting. They spend paragraphs on Ramsey’s father being sent to prison for his own attempted mass shooting and how his mother became an alcoholic. They talk about the bullying he suffered at school ad nauseam. Both articles are written in such a way that Ramsey’s childhood is supposed to somehow excuse the double homicide he committed.
If Ramsey is willing to accept responsibility for his crime the press is doing a major disservice by playing up his childhood issues. By doing so, they’re not only excusing his actions but they make them seem acceptable by potential school shooters.
29-year-old Felix Joel Perez Fong, of Phoenix, Arizona, has been arrested for allegedly sexually assaulting an underage girl that he was friends with on Facebook. He is said to have met the victim at a family party before continuing to talk to the girl on Facebook where they exchanged explicit pictures. Reports say that Fong repeatedly mentioned that he knew the girl was half his age. So let’s assume that the victim was either 14 or 15, that’s still under the legal age of consent. Apparently the age difference wasn’t large enough to stop Fong from picking the girl up from school so they could have sex, or as it should be called child rape.
There’s nothing that’s not creepy about this story, from meeting the girl at a family party to picking the girl up at school for sex. If you’re not careful, this is who could be talking to your kids on Facebook. While kids are more likely to be abused by someone they know, like a friend of the family, doesn’t mean predators won’t use electronic means such as Facebook to groom their victims.
55-year-old Gary Owens of Omaha, Nebraska, reportedly took out an ad on craigslist that said he was a nice guy and just looking for a friend. A homeless woman responded to his ad looking for a place to stay. Instead she found herself in a makeshift prison. Once she was in the house Owens allegedly told her “You know we’re going to have sex right?” before preventing her from leaving the bedroom. After she rebuffed his advances, Owens allegedly restrained her with rope and choked her into unconsciousness before raping her. When she needed to use the bathroom Owens would lock her in there as well. The victim says she was eventually able to trick Owens into letting her use a phone and was able to call a women’s shelter who helped her escape. Owens is said to have a long and violent criminal history.
I can understand someone being desperate enough to seek shelter anywhere if they’re without a home, however, craigslist is not that place to look. Unfortunately, it is overflowing with violent predators like this. If they’re allowing you to stay in their home out of ‘the goodness of their hearts’ it’s more than likely that they want something unsavory in return.
Ybarra had also previously claimed that his plan was instructed to him by God and Satan. However, the prosecution noted that Ybarra didn’t make any such claims until he had already been in detention and heard talk of ‘God’s plan’ through ministries in jail.
There has been a lot of speculation that Ybarra is somehow representative of the failure of mental healthcare in this country. Let’s not forget that Ybarra was receiving treatment, but not only did he discount the treatment from day one, but also went off his meds so he could ‘feel the hate’.
So don’t shed a tear for Ybarra, he’s going exactly where he belongs for the rest of his natural life, away from society where he can’t hurt anyone anymore.
Anuj and Leslie Chopra, 41 and 42 respectively of Jamestown Township, Michigan, are accused of trying to lure teen friends of their 16-year-old daughter into sex. Mr. Chopra is accused of allegedly offering 16 and 17-year-old boys to perform sex acts for money while Chopra would record the acts. Mrs. Chopra is accused of allegedly sending explicit pictures to the 16-year-old boy through Snapchat in order to get the boy into bed.
According to Wikiepdia, the age of consent in Michigan is 16 unless one is an authority figure, then it’s 18. It could be argued that a friend’s parent is somewhat of an authority figure, however, the point is moot since Mr. Chopra allegedly offered money to the teens. Because of the money the charge becomes human trafficking.
It always amazes me when a romantically involved couple agree on such a horrible idea. I always wonder how that conversation gets started. “Hey honey, you know what would make our marriage even better? If I recorded you getting tag-teamed by two underage boys?” With her replying “I know just the way to do it to, I’ll send porn to one of our daughter’s friends on Snapchat.””BRILLIANT!”
It used to be, back in the day, that parents had each others backs, now you can’t even trust them.
55-year-old Michael Miller of Arizona was arrested in Miami for allegedly prostituting a woman on Backpage and violently assaulting her. Miller is said to have been romantically involved with the woman in Arizona when he reportedly talked her in to prostituting herself on Backpage. By the time she realized she was just another body to sell for Miller it was already too late.
Miller allegedly choked her and punched her in the face while trafficking her all over the country. He reportedly turned her out at high trafficked events like the Super Bowl and New Year’s Eve. While in Miami, the woman said she was too tired to work, but Miller beat her and made her work anyway. Luckily, at one point, the victim was able to contact her family who contacted Miami police who arrested Miller.
Once again, this woman is another victim who supporters of Backpage will tell you doesn’t exist. They’ll try to tell you they don’t know anyone who’s trafficked, and that they don’t know any pimps. I guess this is a woman they didn’t know. More than likely they know a lot of victims like this woman but choose not to care. Women like this are being trafficked all over the country on Backpage. Don’t let anyone try to tell you differently.
As I’ve said in the past, too many people think that sex trafficking doesn’t happen where they live, and that it only happens in big cities. Have you ever heard of Auburn, Maine? I didn’t until I read this story. According to Wikipedia, the city has a population of roughly 23,000. That didn’t keep one man from violently forcing a woman to sell herself on Backpage.
A 57-year-old Auburn man was indicted this week, accused of raping a local woman, forcing her into prostitution and beating her with a gun, hammer and dinner plate in November.
And that is only the tip of the bloody iceberg.
Minor is also accused of allegedly beating the woman with a belt before tightening the belt around her throat. He is also said to have pistol whipped her in a fit of jealous rage. Kind of ironic that someone who forces a woman to have sex with other men would be jealous. He is also accused of striking the victim in the back of the head with a hammer after she woke up, and smashing a plate over her head after punching her. When the victim was finally able to make it to a hospital for her injuries Minor is said to have shown up at the hospital looking for her. Other women had ‘worked’ for Minor as well so God only knows what he did to those women too.
This story, which is sadly only one of many, should show you a number of things. The first is that human trafficking is happening everywhere, yes, your town too. The second is that this is obviously not a victimless crime, unless you consider violent assaults and rape victimless. Lastly, this is not an ‘industry’ of women who chose this way of life as many would have you try to believe. This woman, this victim, is more the rule than the exception no matter how many sex workers will tell you that they don’t know anyone who is being trafficked against their will. Those people are either turning a blind eye to the brutality before them to justify the way they make money, or are being trafficked themselves, and are just repeating a line that their pimps have told them to say.
Let’s also not forget that Backpage made their money off of this woman’s blood and pain in the name of ‘free speech’.