24-year-old Jeffrey Scott Vanherreweghe of Crossville, Alabama, was working with a construction crew in Huntingburg, Indiana, when he met a woman on the mobile dating app Tinder. The pair allegedly had consensual sex before Vanherreweghe (How do you even pronounce that?) became violent and raped his victim at the hotel where the crew was staying. It took his co-workers to get the key for the hotel room door for the woman to be able to make her escape. Vanherreweghe is only being held on $15,000 bond.
I hate to be the old man yelling at clouds, but back in my day, in the olden times of the internet, not only did it take a long ‘getting to know you’ process before meeting someone, even then there was a huge danger of meeting them in meat space. Now it seems that with apps like Tinder, users seem to be meeting people that day without any serious vetting process.
If I was in the dating pool today, even if I was in my 20s, I doubt I would use an app like Tinder. Not only does it seem to focus on the superficial but I imagine it attracts many of the same creeps that haunt places like the personals section of craigslist. A real relationship doesn’t begin with a swipe.
20-year-old Kwangmin Jin of San Ramon, California, is accused of drugging and sexually assaulting four women in the San Francisco Bay area, specifically Fremont, California. Drugging and sexual assault are the terms the article used but let’s call a spade a spade. That sounds a lot like date rape.
Anyway, Jin is said to have met the women over Tinder, Facebook, Mocospace and Skout. Skout is new to me but it appears to be just another dating app even though it says its purpose is to meet new people. He allegedly used the aliases of Kevin Park, Kevin Jin, Jeremy Lee and Kevin Lee. Once he met the women he’d offer them a drink that was reportedly spiked with an unnamed sedative drug. The women would pass out and Jin is said to have sexually assaulted them while unconscious. Again, that sounds an awful lot like date rape to me.
Of course Jin may have more victims…
Fremont police said there is evidence indicating that there are probably more victims throughout the Bay Area. Anyone who may have had contact with Jin is asked to contact police at (510) 790-6900.
This story should serve as a reminder for both men and women regardless of sexual preference. Even though online dating has been a thing for close to 20 years now, if not longer, we’re still not at a place in our society where people you meet online can be trusted. Just from a safety standpoint online hook ups or one night stands should be avoided at all costs. I know that’s hard to say when you’re young and full of life and want to have fun. I get it I’ve been there and made some questionable decisions. Luckily none of them cost me any bodily harm. There’s a gamut of crimes that predators like this can commit from robbery to murder. It’s not worth losing your life over.
If you know someone who engages in this kind of risky behavior you may want to send them this story.